tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1466184734902193542011-04-21T12:48:34.240-07:00Mr.Dayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07936385575070308200noreply@blogger.comBlogger11100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146618473490219354.post-47805853078021950352009-06-02T01:15:00.000-07:002009-06-02T01:18:58.106-07:00Secrets of a Good Relationship <br />ANNIVERSARIES<br />A lways celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together is<br />a triumph.<br /><br />APPRECIATION<br />Let each other know how much you appreciate each other.<br />You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.<br /><br />BEST FRIENDS<br />Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend.<br />Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one.<br />Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems.<br />Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged.<br />The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.<br /><br />BOND<br />Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.<br /><br />CHANGING EACH OTHER<br />Don't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.<br /><br />COMPLIMENTS<br />Always compliment each other.<br />This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.<br /><br />DATE<br />Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together.<br />Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attraction<br /><br />DIFFERENCES<br />Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.<br /><br />FIGHTS<br />Fight w/the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other.<br />The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot.<br />Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles.<br />Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.<br /><br />FLAWS<br />Know that the perfect person does not exist.<br />Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.<br /><br />FUN<br />Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days.<br />Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.<br /><br />GOALS<br />Make sure you have similar goals.<br />It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.<br /><br />GRUDGES<br />Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.<br /><br />KEEPING IT HOT<br />Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together.<br />A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.<br /><br />HONESTY<br />Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.<br /><br />KNOW EACH OTHER<br />Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!<br /><br />HUG<br />A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.<br /><br />IDENTITY<br />Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love w/you.<br />Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to contribute more to the relationship.<br /><br />INDEPENDENCE<br />Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.<br /><br />IN-LAWS<br />Make rooms for the in-laws.<br /><br />INTENTIONS<br />Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst<br /><br />ISSUES<br />Speak up about the awkward stuff now,like money & sex. The earlier, the better.<br /><br />LISTEN<br />Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.<br /><br />LOOK GOOD<br />Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.<br /><br />LOVE<br />It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.<br /><br />MEMORIES<br />Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before.<br />It may even be corny but it made you two together.<br />Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.<br /><br />MIND READING<br />No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.<br /><br />NEEDS<br />Be good to yourself,then be good to your partner.<br />That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy?<br />Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings.<br />Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you.<br />Never take your partner for granted.<br /><br />PRIORITIES<br />If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!<br /><br />SPACE<br />Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's night out.<br />If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.<br /><br />SORRY<br />Say sorry when you're wrong.<br /><br />SURPRISES<br />No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.<br /><br />TEAMWORK<br />Think for two & always work as a team.<br />Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you.<br />Strengthen couple power.<br />In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.<br /><br />SUPPORT<br />Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions,<br />support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.<br />Two heads are better than one.<br /><br />TALK<br />Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart.<br />Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it & have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you have to.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Communication is the main ingredient in successful long relationships.<br />Share your feelings w/o judgments or criticism, active listening,<br />then working up to a discussion for problem solving. It takes continuous effort & learning. <br />Tags: words<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/146618473490219354-4780585307802195035?l=ikanperak08.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>Mr.Dayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07936385575070308200noreply@blogger.com0